Effective coping strategies for when you’ve lost your job.
Job loss is common, and it can be one of the most difficult experiences in life. Whether you lost your job due to downsizing, termination, closure, or you felt leaving was your only choice, you are not alone in this often gut-wrenching experience. Coping with job loss involves understanding all that job loss entails and how you are affected by the loss. Understanding the impact of job loss can help you identify and take steps to recover and move forward.
Job loss is often very painful because losing your job can threaten your financial safety. Not knowing how – or if – you’ll meet your needs for food, shelter, or healthcare can be terrifying. Losing your job may also threaten any ways you might have defined yourself by your job. It can be deeply unsettling to lose connection to ways you’ve defined yourself. Considering how often people ask one another what they do for work, it’s common for our jobs to factor into how we define ourselves. Additionally, job loss often comes with consequences beyond losing your pay and job title. You may also be encountering some or all of the associated losses below:
Grief is the natural response to any significant, life-changing loss. Therefore, if you lost your job, you are likely grieving your loss. Grieving job loss can affect your emotions, thoughts, behaviors, and body in unique ways. You might be experiencing:
The impact of job loss may feel more intense if:
No matter the circumstances, losing your job and grieving it can feel intense, massive, and overwhelming.
Some of the common responses to job loss (fatigue, hopelessness, etc.) can interfere with taking active steps toward gaining employment. For instance, it can be challenging to apply for jobs if you’re feeling defeated or exhausted. Similarly, it may be hard to appear confident and upbeat in interviews if you’re doubting yourself or distrusting others.
You may be tempted to bury your grief with frantic attempts to “get over it.” Attempts to only move on quickly may not be helpful, because grief is how we recover from loss. This means pushing grief away entirely can make it difficult to feel ready for new employment. At the same time, only grieving can make it difficult to take steps toward gaining employment. Coping with job loss effectively involves finding ways to grieve your loss and take steps to move forward, often at the same time.MOVING FORWARDGRIEVINGCOPING WITH JOB LOSS
Consider scheduling some time each day for grieving and some time each day for taking steps to move forward. The list of suggested coping actions below includes strategies for grieving and strategies for moving forward.
Shame and self-blame following job loss are common. Both responses can contribute to unhelpful behaviors like substance misuse, inactivity, or over-working. Getting active and treating yourself with care (like you would treat someone you care about) are often more effective for making positive changes. Suggested actions:
Acknowledging, identifying, and expressing grief related to job loss is important for recovery and getting ready for your next job. Suggested actions:
People coping with job loss benefit from keeping a consistent schedule. Since grief takes time and energy, consider scheduling your day in a way that still allows for recovery. Suggested actions:
Getting support from others can be a source of comfort and connection during periods of hardship and isolation. Know that people often appreciate the opportunity to support someone through a difficult time. Suggested actions:
Focusing on how you can define yourself beyond your work can remind you of the many things that are important to you in life. Connecting to domains of life you value other than work (family, nature, etc.) can help broaden how you define yourself. Suggested actions:
Although it’s often hard to feel hopeful after job loss, directing your thoughts toward hope and optimism helps activate the problem-solving part of your brain. Focusing on optimistic thoughts (even just part of the time) can also help you gain a sense of control and acceptance over such a painful situation. Suggested actions:
Please know that during this time of turmoil, it can be difficult to balance grieving with taking steps to move forward. Coping with job loss often isn’t straightforward. Do your best to drop any judgments toward yourself if you notice that you’re taking one step forward and two steps back at times. Recognize that your willingness to take any steps following job loss requires tremendous courage and grit.