Building connection means creating or deepening emotional intimacy in your relationships. It involves finding ways to feel closer to the other person and for that person to feel closer to you.
We rely on other people to share in our joys and to support us when we are feeling down. People who lack closer relationships are more likely to feel isolated or depressed.
Do something nice for someone you care about. Our lives are busy and stressful. It’s so much easier to vegetate in front of the TV after work than to take the time to show someone you care. Whether it’s bringing your boyfriend flowers for no particular reason, or doing the dishes for your girlfriend, caring gestures go a long way towards building closeness in relationships.
Do things you both enjoy. Sometimes each of us has to make compromises in a relationship. When you want to strengthen the good feelings in your relationship, it’s important to do things together that you both enjoy.
Share about yourself. One of the best ways to build emotional intimacy in a relationship is through mutual self-disclosure. Mutual disclosure means sharing a little something about yourself and then giving the other person room to share something as well. However, one of the biggest mistakes we tend to make when using this skill is to disclose too much, too quickly. Emotional closeness, whether it’s with a friend or a prospective romantic partner, is best done slowly and judiciously, unless you already know the person well.